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This was part 2 of a post that was posted originally in June of 2008, it was edited for length
Okay, we talked about husbands...and those realizations have made a huge difference in how I have looked at him the last few days :)
So also when I realized some even more interesting things about my kids' stress.
I found answers that encouraged me, alarmed me, and inspired me to be more alert to all of our stress levels. Here are some things I picked up on as a evidence of their stress ...
- Fit throwing ..both more than their usual personalities
- Mean to siblings, or friends
- Discipline issues
- Physical aggression
- Lack of proper sleep
- Lack of proper rest (this may not be sleep, but just quiet)
- Too busy of a schedule
- Lack of consistent discipline
- Lack of routine (kids thrive on knowing what to expect!)
- MY stress stresses my kids
- Yelling (this one makes me sad ...and I have to work on it)
- Lack of healthy eating (especially protein intake)
- Too much sugar (this one is big for my kids!)
- Lack of one-on-one time
- Clutter in their spaces (I was little shocked by that one!)
- My being on the phone or the internet
Think about what stress does to you, then imagine that your precious babies are feeling that same feeling. Is there something that I can do, or NOT do that will keep that from happening?
How often does YOUR stress effect them? Think about that bad day, that day you are feeling bad or are overwhelmed...where are the kids? what are they doing? what are they experiencing when they watch you in that state?
I for one, feel more motivated to keep my stress under control!
Some things I have considered to help their stress levels ...
- Control mine.
- Keep a schedule that allows them proper naps/quiet time
- Make sure they get proper meals, and fluid intake
- Make sure to schedule one-on-one times
- Consistent discipline ..if you say it, then follow through
- Keep a routine they can count on ..we make sure to do all our running around in the morning, so we can count on afternoon at home.
- Order in their spaces..its weird, but they seem more calm when they know where their things are, and where they go when they are done playing
- Using calm words, controlling my voice
- THE NUMBER ONE WAY TO RELIEVE THEIR STRESS...PLAY WITH THEM!
Remember, they are our purpose. NOTHING is more important than this job we have to do. NOTHING on your list is more important than those precious moments when you forget the dishes and play trains with your little boy. Your little girl will not forget the time you played tea party, dressup or make over (but not if the laundry is done).
One more thing, if you are aware of your kids love language then use that as a very useful way to reducing stress. Does focused time with your kids make a noted difference? Then set the timer for 15 minutes, and give it to them. Does touch create a connection with your babies? Then touch them every chance you can get, set the timer for 15 minutes and cuddle while you read a book. On days when they are driving you the most crazy, grab them up, consider their stress, and DESTRESS them.
Its energy worth using. Its time you cant get back...dont waste it on stress, for you or your kids!